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As Valentine’s Day approaches, those experiencing recent heartbreak may find the pain even more intense. While breakups can be emotionally overwhelming, healing is a crucial step toward personal growth and future happiness. Dr. Peggy H. Yang, assistant professor in the Menninger Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Baylor College of Medicine, offers insights on how to navigate a breakup amid the season of love.
“Breakups can sometimes feel like a trauma, but we can have post-traumatic growth. We want to heal and be in an even better place after we’ve gone through it,” said Dr. Yang. She emphasizes that individuals who have a support system and are able to process and make sense of their breakup tend to recover faster.
Breakups, while painful, provide an opportunity for self-reflection and learning. They help individuals understand their relationship patterns, recognize their strengths, and clarify what they seek in future relationships. Despite the well-known saying that “time heals all wounds,” active self-care is essential during this period. Dr. Yang recommends prioritizing physical well-being through proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise. Additionally, surrounding oneself with trusted friends and family members can offer emotional support.
“For some of us, times of high stress are best managed by being around others, while others need solitude. Striking a balance and checking in with those who know you well can be beneficial. If you feel the grief is prolonged or interfering with your daily life, seeking professional support or therapy can be helpful,” she advised.
Valentine’s Day can be especially challenging for those dealing with heartbreak. Dr. Yang encourages individuals to redefine the meaning of the day. Rather than focusing solely on romantic connections, people can spend time with friends, family, or even engage in self-care activities such as enjoying a favorite meal or indulging in a personal treat.
For those who feel overwhelmed by the holiday’s romantic themes, taking a break from social media or limiting exposure to certain content may provide relief. Acknowledging and validating one’s emotions, whether through grieving or finding joy in other aspects of life, is an essential part of the healing process.
“If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of rumination, blaming yourself, struggling to meet daily responsibilities, or experiencing prolonged appetite or sleep disturbances, it may be time to seek a clinical assessment,” Dr. Yang cautioned.
A professional evaluation can determine whether a breakup is exacerbating an existing mental health condition or triggering new symptoms of anxiety or depression. Psychotherapy can help individuals navigate the grieving process, rebuild meaning, and develop resilience for future relationships. Healing takes time, and so does learning how to cultivate healthy, fulfilling relationships moving forward.
“The hope is that we don’t just think about others on Valentine’s Day—that one day of the year—whether we’re in a relationship or not, but that we take care of others and ourselves every day,” Dr. Yang concluded.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health advice. If you are experiencing prolonged distress or emotional difficulty, please consult a licensed mental health professional.
